Living Done Well

Everything Must Change

  You must never forget that the people who hired you didn't  hire you because of what you knew, they hired you because of what you could learn; but when you begin to complain about the different changes being made at your job you implicitly suggest to them that maybe you have exhausted your capacity to grow; and no manager wants to work with somebody who won’t grow. Being able to adjust to new dynamics tells your boss that you’re prepared to go anywhere she goes. It signals to the people who monitor your progress that you can bloom wherever you are planted. And that kind of attitude will make you an asset to any
organization. Change is not an insult to what you’ve already done—it’s an opportunity for you to do more. Without change we would never grow, we would never become anything other than what we are. People don’t like change because it means that we no longer have all the answers. When things change it is an indication that our answers are no longer valid, but companies don’t become great because they hire people who have all the answers—they become great because they hire people who ask great questions. You don’t need to have all the answers. What you need is the courage to ask a great question and when you question you make you clear to everyone involved that you’re investing in the change rather than complaining about it.

You go to work to be paid--not to feel good about yourself; so don’t expect to be loved, validated, appreciated, or even liked by the people you work for. The only thing that they owe you is a paycheck and once they’ve given you that, your job has fulfilled its obligation to you.

If you need to feel validated or appreciated—go home. Feeling good about yourself is why you have family and friends. The people you work with are professional partners, that is to say, they don’t really know you and they are not obligated to help you maintain a positive attitude about yourself.

Let’s be clear about this, your job is what you do so that you can become what you love. Too many people strive to be great at work but are mediocre at home and what they don’t realize is that your job is not your masterpiece; your masterpiece is at home.

Your children, your marriage, your relationships, your friends, your significant other, and your passions constitute the living legacy you are creating with the enduring witness of your life, not your job. When your time on this planet is done the people you used to work for will have somebody sitting at your desk within a month, but the people who loved you will never be the same. They are the ones that will speak well of you and cause your memory to live on into perpetuity; and you should want them to have better things to say about you than the people you work for.

Be your best wherever you are but do your best work at home!